The Soulful Atom

Is it really true that you have to lose to gain something? Though it does seem to have scarily often with me. But I'm sure its not required to happen. Realizing the worth of something after having lost it is again different.
However, its always possible to hold on to existing things and get new things that we want. Its our life and its our rules that apply. Though people tend to go looking for new things only when they've lost the old ones. Or they tend to notice things they didn't before, and hence, i believe, its said that to gain something you've to lose something..
Why not just be open to things around and not let ourselves be bound by own mind games? Why do we have to lose something to realize its worth, or the worth of new things that come our way after we lose the existing ones?
Isn't it better to appreciate things that we have and also new things that come along? And just hold on to things that we like and want. And tweak or let go of the ones we don't! Its our life and our rules! Unless you don't have your own then you'll have to play by the ones other's have created. But i believe its always in our hands to turn life our way! Its not necessary to lose something for gaining something else! :)