The Soulful Atom

Who am i? How many times do we face this question? For some perhaps never, for some perhaps daily, and for some perhaps from time to time..
For me it is quite frequently.
So who are you? What is it that defines who we are? Is it the people that give us birth? Is it the family we are born in? Is it the people we grow up with? Is it the friends we make? Is it the people we work with or for? Is it the person/people we marry? Is it the person/people we love? Is it the person/people who love us?
When i think of it i feel its never the people.. It is only us.. It is our actions that define us.. It is our thoughts, our feelings that define who we are.
I am someone who will not give up when i know what i want. To begin with i mostly do know what i want. I am aware of myself, my feelings, my thoughts..
There are times when our own actions let us down, there are times when other people's actions let us down.. but do we let these define who we are? Do we let these other people have control to define our actions? Are we mere puppets? Do we let situations define our actions or feelings or thoughts? I'm not saying our actions should be against the situation or other people, i'm saying we should not let anything else influence our actions, thoughts, feelings so much that they change to the benefit of others and not to our own self! I'm not saying we all should be so selfish as to hurt others. No, there is a thin line in being selfish and in causing others harm!
If you want to do yourself good needn't always mean you are doing others harm!
In fact there are times when you are to do others good and end up harming yourself.. Is that fair? i doubt.
So who are you?
I know who i am. I'm aware of the choices i make. I will make sacrifices too but its because i want to, not because someone else is asking me to or manipulating me to do it. It means i am selfish, but its does not mean i'm cause harm to others. It means i'm making a stand that i will not be pushed around by these people who try to manipulate me and take me for granted. If they can't see or accept my happiness then they can't claim to love me. I might still feel the same way for these people but they would not be able to claim the same kind of actions from me.
So i do believe that its out actions that define who we are, and actions that we take being fully aware of what it is that we want.